Fool Me Once...

We've all heard the popular saying, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." No-one likes to be taken advantage of. Nobody wants to be anybody's fool. The level of trust we place in others is based strongly on our personal experiences. After being tricked once, you would think we ought to learn from our mistakes to avoid being tricked in the same way again but that is rarely ever the case. I can't count the number of times, I have listened to complaints about falling into the same trap time and time again.

So what makes us so vulnerable? Why do we often refuse to believe people when they clearly demonstrate to us what they are about? Why do so many of us elect to stay in dysfunctional relationships for a lifetime? Why do women choose to take on men that are way beneath them in every sense of the word and allow them to run the streets with the notion that, "At least I have someone at home?"

I have been privileged to counsel women who have spent all their life savings trying to keep a partner who has no intention to be kept. I have had the chance to seat across the table and hold hands with people who have been abused physically and emotionally over and over again, yet they hesitate to pull the trigger on relationships that are clearly not healthy. The excuse I often hear is. "We have children together." I can confidently tell you that children will rather come from a broken home than live in one.

Life is so short. It's time to stop investing a lifetime of trust in people who let you down over and over again. The first time they let you down is a warning, the second time is a lesson and anything beyond that is just foolishness on your part. We are all designed to forgive so that we can live uncontaminated lives but we are not called to abject stupidity. Life should never be about just getting by with the bottom of the barrel.

It's time to stop circling the same mountain. The day has come to stop going around and around the same mulberry bush. Decide to surgically remove all areas of dysfunction from your life. Choose to invest your energies in things that really matter and that count towards significance. It's really a conscious choice to keep repeating the same class.

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