Let Them Walk

Life, love and relationships can be pretty complicated. We are called to love but sometimes love lets us down. Hearts break and we feel as if we will never recover. People we chose to love with every fiber of our being walk away and we are left alone to pick up the pieces. We have chosen to love and we have lost but I listened to a mentor of mine years ago and he was clear on how we ought to react to this kind of loss. This is what he says:

"When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Don't try to talk another person into staying with you, calling you, loving you, caring about you. coming to see you, staying attached to you. I don't care how wonderful they are. I don't care how attracted you were to them. I don't care what they've done for you. Your destiny is not tied to the one who left. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left. People leave you because they are not joined to you. You can get super glue and you can't make them stick. Let them go! It doesn't mean that they are necessarily bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over. You have to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You have to know when things are over. If they walked away from you it's no accident. If they left you, its no accident. If you tried to make it work and it didn't work, it's no accident. Accept it as the will of God. Clap your hands, wash your face, do your dance and keep going. You've got to have the gift of goodbye." Bishop T. D. Jakes

Don't let the betrayal or the departure of someone who you really hoped would stay with you for the rest of life place your life on hold. Get up, dust yourself off and resolve to keep moving forward. Expand your world. Reach out to help others and new love will surely come.

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